James & Ludieli Proenca
The idea of setting a spark or starting a fire was the idea Tinder had to start romantic relationships. A simple metaphor for a simple dating app. Nowadays Tinder is generally use for the purpose to Netflix and chill which is also a cute metaphor for a one night stand. But on occasions the right Spark can turn a small piece of Tinder into a Bonfire but as long as the chemistry is right the Flame can stay lit.
This story is the history of how two people from two different Hemispheres came to be. The girl started an account with Tinder looking for new friends. She was new to the states and was looking for some company as she was alone for all except a host family whose kids she took care of. The boy had an account and was just looking to Netflix and chill but a girl who hardly spoke any English caught his attention so he swiped right and hoped she would too.
A day passed and a match was made. The boy thought he was clever so he sent the perfect message he thought that would break the Ice, “Titanic.” Apparently she did not get the joke and soon the girl quit talking with him. The boy was about to give up but saw that the girl made some grammar mistakes in her about me and figured her English was not so good and thought he can make the necessary adjustments and he then sent his farewells. She sent her regards and the two started talking again but little did the two know that this was just the beginning of their story.
As the two talked and shared jokes through text messaging he asked her out on a date to the movies. It was hard to get her out of her house as she had her responsibilities to her host family and didn’t want to ruin the relationship with them by bringing a guy into a picture so early on. They met for the first time inside the Studio City Theater on the East side of town on February 4, 2017. After the boy bought his tickets and awaited her arrival he saw a girl walk up to him and she said, “Are you James?” “Yes and you must be Ludieli” he said unknowingly mispronouncing her name as the English Translation and the Italian, even though she is Brazilian, has different ways to enunciate the characters in the words. Instead of Ludieli think of Lu-G-ie-li.
As we sat and waited for the movie to start she admitted to me that when I asked her to play a game in our text exchanges she told me that she thought of the movie ‘Saw’ and that she was afraid that I was going to, her words not mine, “Killer her.” I also found out her English was not nearly as good as I thought it was since she was using the translation app through her phone so communication was difficult and made the night very awkward for the both of us.
James was about to give up on this whole thing with her and thought maybe she would do the same but Ludi sent him a text saying that she had fun and James suddenly but not understanding exactly why at the time wanted to keep talking. And so the two carried on with their text exchanges anticipating who will send the next message. James wanted to set up another date and said to himself that the next time he will go in for the kiss. But unfortunately the kiss would have to wait because the bad girl [James is writing this] avoided going on anymore dates as Ludi decided for the last time to quit talking to James for a whole month.
James couldn’t understand what happened. He thought things were going so well but she just decided to quit talking to him. It’s not like the two were a thing at the time or had any real strong connections. But James saw the chemistry between the two and decided there was only 2 logical things to do before giving up. The occasional Facebook stalk and send a accidental message on purpose after 3 weeks of silence. Sometimes you just got to be creepy. Right?...
Well long story short, it worked. At least it got her attention and she wanted to go to another movie but she made it clear that she wanted to go as ‘friends’ and only as ‘friends.’
“I would love to be your friend. Lets just hangout and have fun.” My butt. What James actually said was, “I like you and I want to spend time with you but I don’t want to be friends. If that will not work for you then maybe it’s best if we move on. If you are ever interested to go on a real date with me not as friends let me know and I will be happy to go out with you but until then I wish you the best and I hope you enjoy your stay in America.”
A long few minutes passed and Ludi finally sent a message back. “kkkkk, ok I will go out with you. I’ll keep in touch.” (*Just and FYI, ‘kkkkk’ is how the brazilians expresses laughter in messages like how many English speakers say ‘lol.’ It was definitely awkward and confusing as the KKK came to my mind when I first started talking with her.)
Ludi and James finally met again but not at a movie but at James’ Brazilian Jiu Jitsu Class. Pretty sure Ludi was checking out James’ butt that night but there’s no definitive proof of that happening. It wasn’t until after class they went for a walk and talked. Now first you need to understand James can be quite ignorant to walk with a girl he has met for the second time who compared him to the Jigsaw murderer from the SAW movies. Now that being said it was dark out and the class is located in a dark alleyway and the only place you can walk is in a dark alleyway. Ludi has mentioned much later on that she thought James was going to rape and kill her that night. But all that was on James’ mind was ‘This is kind of nice and romantic…. I should kiss her.’ And that’s what I did. I went in and she kissed me back. Was it out of fear? No, she enjoyed it and felt completely safe because if I did something weird she had her hands on her pepper spray in her purse that she was more than ready to use. Which was also something I only heard about much later.
So kids, that is how James met Ludi and how they came to be. Of course the relationship wasn’t official until a few months later on May 9th, 2017. But along the way leading up to this day they have gone and taken multiple trips to Colorado, and once to Arizona, Utah, and Yellowstone. Ludi has met his family and was there for him through one of his hardest moments when his dog passed. She moved to California for a month but she was unhappy there and he asked her if she wanted to come back to Casper and move in with him.
We bought a car and a house together in that time and shared a one year anniversary. Of course like any couple we sometimes argue but unlike most couples the arguments usually end in laughter and forgiveness. And even though her English has gotten much much much better James still can’t pass up the opportunity to have her say the word ‘Squirrel.’ Because she can’t properly enunciate the word to save her life but she keeps trying over and over again and it hilarious.
All it takes is the right Tinder to get the fire started. It just takes a few sparks to get things going.